Why My Alzheimer Blog Is Not Visually Appealing

Someone left me a comment on my blog telling me that they thought the content of my blog is well written and informative. However, he stated that my blog is not visually pleasing and needs a different format and more pictures. My assumption is that this person is a social media expert, graphics designer or someone in that profession who is really trying to sell me his services. His comment was hurtful, given the fact that my blog is about my life with Alzheimers. I don’t disagree with his observation, I am just not capable of doing what he suggested. A few years ago, my blog would have had all of the bell and whistles because I am very technically savvy and I have designed my own websites before, etc.

My blog is titled Living My Best Life with Alzheimer’s so that should give you some indication of how my life is right now. I still have more good days then bad days, but many days I struggle to get up to speed. I have documented in my blog some of the things that I have done for decades that I now I struggle with such as finding my parked car, finding anything, how to make my smoothie, organizing my medicines, and following a recipe. I am doing everything I can to survive, to keep it all together. Everyday I feel like things are dropping through the cracks.

One of the reasons I started my blog is to share my journey, help others afflicted with this awful disease, and educate others. Also, it was a great way for me to challenge myself to learn something new. WordPress (the tool that I use for this blog) offers a lot of templates I could have used to format my blog. I tried to learn how to do it for ten days and couldn’t figure it out. I gave up in frustration. This would have been something that would have been so easy for me a few years ago. Now, every time I attempt to write a blog post, I can’t remember how to do it. I have to relearn how to do it every time I write a blog. I have tried to use WordPress help section but it isn’t easy for me to decipher so I have written out my own instructions on how to write a blog post, add a photo, etc. I am using the instructions now as I write. I will use them later this week when I write another post. My short term memory is shot. I So to be honest, the fact that my blog is not that visually appealing or pretty is not my primary concern right now. I know this reader was offering constructive criticism but given the topic of my blog, it seemed quite insensitive. I would encourage people to understand the nature of the illness and perhaps learn more about Alzheimer’s and dementia. Please, give a gal a break here!

I am so glad 2019 is over, it was not a good year for me. Some people never cease to amaze me, but then I realize how many awesome people I have in my life as well. For those of you who are my biggest cheerleaders, thank you!

P.S. The WordPress tool was giving me problems when I was writing this. Normally troubleshooting would be no problem for me, but not anymore. I am totally frustrated.I’m publishing it regardless of the formatting.


27 thoughts on “Why My Alzheimer Blog Is Not Visually Appealing

  1. You are doing an amazing job and write brilliantly for someone suffering from this hideous disease. I for one enjoy reading your posts and find them helpful. My husband has EOA. You take care & write in any format you can xx


    1. Thank you I appreciate it. I am finding it more difficult to remember how to use the blog tool, so I have to do so on a good brain day where I don’t struggle as much. I appreciate your kind words.


  2. Kelly,

    I know it’s probably hard to ignore people who are negative. In the last couple of weeks you’ve had someone on your pet site attack you and now this – I can’t believe how insensitive people can be at times. I know you won’t let this stop you from posting. What you’ve posted is ten times better than what most people post. Keep on with what makes you happy and whole. Often when things like this happen there is a bright side. Seek the bright side my friend and know that there are plenty of people who love you.


    1. Thank you, Lisa. I am always amazed by how insensitive people are. I think they struggle with being kind because they are unhappy. I know in my heart I am doing the best I can and I think I am helping others so I will keep dong it and withstanding the attacks. My doc says keep doing it until it isn’t bringing me a sense of fulfillment which is what I will do. I love you, my friend.


  3. You are doing an amazing job. I appreciate you and your blog.
    The person who sent you that email obviously wasn’t using their brain.
    I don’t care about pictures and formatting, it’s your words that help me through my days.
    Don’t give up!


    1. Thanks. I have to admit it a struggle some days. Some days though are better than others and it is a good challenge for me to see how long I can continue to do this. I am glad you are finding value in my blog. Wishing you a happy and healthy 2020!


  4. There will always be negative people in this world!!!! I admire you and you are more of a help than you realize. I took care of my husband with vascular dementia and it was a challenge. Love prevails and he must have felt my love for him because a few days before he died he thanked me for taking such good care of him, was able to tell me he loved me, and thanked me for praying with him daily. I cherish those words every day.

    Words matter and I think your sharing what you can about your journey with this awful disease is admirable. Don’t be hard on yourself. Trust and know and believe in yourself. May God bless you.


    1. I am so sorry to hear about your husband, MaryAnn. I know how hard it is to lose someone to dementia and Alzheimer’s. It’s a slow agonizing death. I am glad he could thank you for taking care of him. My Mom did that a week before she died when she had a lucid moment. Please be kind to yourself and take the time you need to grieve, and heal and find joy again in your life. Sending you a huge hug. Happy New Year.


  5. Kelly, don’t let anyone put a damper on your day. You are an amazing woman doing amazing things and the world is better because of you.


  6. Kelly I find people will argue or make nasty comments about just about anything.This really saddens me that someone would do this.You are doing a great job.my son in laws mom has Alzheimer’s and you blog is very interesting and informative.I don’t read it to see cute pictures.you are doing a great job! Ignore the noise. Blessings..Glenda

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  7. You keep doing what your doing as it is insight, educational and most of allREAL! That individual does not understand the reason or heart of your blog!

    WE your followers do and love you!


  8. Hi Kelly, You will ALWAYS be # 1 in our book, for not only saving our dog’s life regarding Hill’s diet, but helping soooo many people afflicted with the disease of Dementia & Alzheimer’s. You are an inspiration in every aspect of your life so PLEASE don’t ever let anyone get you down!! Ignore the noise from the unhappy and ignorant!!! Love Eileen & Dotti and Myli too!!!!


  9. Dearest Kelly, it hurt my heart to hear that someone was hurtful about your blog as I get SO excited about reading it EVERY time it appears in my email! I’ve had to learn that people that don’t struggle with cognitive issues simply can’t understand what they haven’t experienced.
    That said, I SO love your blog bc you’re the only source that I have on a regular basis that I count on (even when it’s a tough day for you), to lift my spirits. You are incredibly strong, insightful, compassionate & selfless to drum up the energy to share with others facing the same struggles.
    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your heart!
    BTW, I wouldn’t notice any fancy graphics any way bc I’m so grateful for the content! 💜🕊🌹🙏🏽💪🏼

    Kindest regards,

    Carole Rose-Lady

    Sent from my iPhone


    1. Thank you for the nice note, Carole. You really made my day! I will not updating my blog for about 35 days as I am going on a big vacation but I promise to send out new blogs after that. Keeping you in my prayers. Happy New Year.


  10. Kelly,

    The world *seems* to be full of trolls and detractors. It isn’t. There are still many many normal people who appreciate the human being on the other end of the keyboard.
    Keep your blog your own, all of us who enjoy it and stand behind you like the connection and don’t give a hoot about the layout or even if your life gets in the way of meeting some arbitrary external schedule.
    I, for one, appreciate your candor and insights.


    1. Thank you so much for the kind words. I appreciate it so much. I’m doing the best I can. I have more good days than bad still thankfully. Happy New Year.


  11. Kelly, your site looks great and I don’t see any issues with the format at all. You are doing a great job. I think your observation was correct, that person was looking to sell services. It’s sad that they did it in such a hurtful way. Sounds like they were new to selling – that statement would fall in the ‘what not to say’ category 🙂
    Keep up the great work and keep your chin up – you’re doing a wonderful thing here. 😎 Happy New Year!


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    1. Thank you for your nice note I am glad you are finding value in my blog! I love Dallas, Texas. I used to go there for work all the time. Please keep reading and sharing with others.


  13. Your site is amazing…I have learned a lot….I was resentful diagnosed with dementia…I have accepted it… but … my husband has not….He laughs at me, calls me nuts, and evens asks me if I need to go to the nutshell ward He hurts me quite oftenBut I ignore him.


    1. Marcia, I am so sorry to hear that your husband is responding this way. Is there anyway you could get him to go to a caregiver support group meeting? It sounds like he is scared and not accepting of your diagnosis. Or has he always been this way? Let me know how I can possibly help you. Have you reached out to the Alzheimer’s Association or attended support group meetings yourself?


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